I have to admit that I haven’t written a blog in some time, and it isn’t for the lack of trying. Today I am sharing a beautiful blog written by a friend of mine, Caroline Kimsey, amazing healer and all round spiritual vibration.
It is heart-felt, and that is very important... it focuses on us, loving us first and foremost, something I try to remind you... and myself. So read, interpret and absorb what fits in your world in this moment.
Hearts are appearing everywhere reminding us of this wonderful energy we have inside of us. Our heart energy is always elevated and vibrates fully when we practice self love. Self Love being the true knowing of who we are and healing the parts of us that separate us from our authentic self allowing us to have a respectful, kind and loving relationship with our self which then will emanate into all our relationships. The wisdom of Shakespeare still encourages us to be the best we can today: “This Above All, To thine own self be true.”
I know every one of us is on our own healing journey in whatever way we feel guided to. I think this is the true gift of self love because until we can address, go through our wounds and come out the other side, we cannot heal them. Building these new foundations or planting these healthy gardens is our gift to our “self” and I know it takes courage. I applaud you all for loving yourselves enough to have the courage to do this and for the change you make to the collective energy with each step to wholeness you take.
Every one of us struggles with judgment. We judge other people's politics, words, clothing, appearance, parenting choice etc, etc, etc. To the point that we don't even notice anymore! It has become a habit/addiction usually started in childhood by those around us and then carried on. Also it is something we can turn on ourselves perpetuating the untruths people told us over our lives. Next time you notice you are judging yourself or others instead of listening to the words take a moment to listen to the voice. If you listen carefully you will probably begin to identify other people - parent’s maybe? Peers? Friends? Work Colleagues? Note other peoples' judgements you have taken on and use. When we do this, it's much easier to stop, as we can see how this is not OUR heart speaking.
Judgement is the opposite too self love, no matter who it is directed too. It's a habit that you can break with mindfulness and it will give you a lot more peace when you do. Gabrielle Bernstein, author of Judgment Detox: Release the Beliefs That Hold You Back from Living a Better Life wrote this:
Judging gives you a hangover
When we judge, we get an instant hit of self-righteousness, but subconsciously we know we're separating ourselves from who we really are: compassionate, kind people. As a result, we feel guilty once our high wears off—and to avoid that feeling, we have to judge someone else. This cycle weakens us mentally and physically.
Judging isolates you
We develop addictions because we're trying to numb a core wound, which is usually rooted in childhood. Maybe someone told you that you weren't good enough, or you experienced some other kind of trauma that left you feeling all alone. To avoid experiencing that pain again, you project it onto others by pointing out their flaws. Our fear leads us to attack—but re-enacting the trauma of the past only creates more loneliness and disconnection.
Judging prevents healing
You have to be willing to look at your darkness in order to see the light. That's why the first step in a judgment detox is just to witness it without blaming ourselves. We judge because we're separated from love; to stop the cycle, we have to cultivate self-love. The second step is to honor that core wound. Next time you have the urge to judge, ask yourself what moment from the past is triggering you to feel this way. When we can understand ourselves, healing begins.
Judging leaves you powerless
Many people feel safer when they judge, as if they're controlling their circumstances, but hatred only creates more hatred. Those hours you might spend fuming about the news, for instance, could be used in a more positive way, like volunteering for a cause you care about, engaging in creative projects or spending quality time with people you love. Recovering from judgment addiction gives us back our power and lifts up everyone around us, too.
To heal the world, we have to live the truth in every corner of our lives. Recovery isn't easy—but when we let go of judgment, we make room for love and joy. It's like staying sober: You can't really enjoy a drink again because you know how good it feels to live without it.
I certainly couldn’t have written this better than Caroline, so I give heartfelt thanks for her sharing this with us all. We cannot begin to walk our walk.. speak our truth until we love our “self” first and foremost, and most of all doing that unconditionally.
This month is February, the month of love, so start cultivating and nurturing you with the love YOU deserve. It takes practice.. and we all know practice makes perfect.
Vibrational Blessings, Debbie
For any of you that are still feeling the “drag” of energy since the Las Vegas shooting, please can I invite you to do these three vibrational things to boost your energy and the energy of those around you.
At this moment in time our world is yet again transitioning – changing up the energy. Testing us if you like! And yes, the tests will continue, it’s called LIFE.
Whenever you are wondering what comes next, take a moment to step into your energy, the beautiful vibration that placed you here right in this moment, reading this blog. You are part of the change, within yourself and your world. This moment was pre-determined when you wrote your contract of what you would do and be in this current life.
Do you have a choice? Yes, of course you do, but do you want to be in an awakened state or a sleeper?
I know which one I would choose and have chosen to be.
Vibrational Blessings, Debbie
One day a teacher asked her students to list the names of the other students in the room on two sheets of paper, leaving a space between each name.
Then she told them to think of the nicest thing they could say about each of their classmates and write it down. It took the remainder of the class period to finish their assignment, and as the students left the room, each one handed in the papers.
That Saturday, the teacher wrote down the name of each student on a separate sheet of paper, and listed what everyone else had said about that individual.
On Monday she gave each student his or her list. Before long, the entire class was smiling. 'Really?' she heard whispered. 'I never knew that I meant anything to anyone!' and, 'I didn't know others liked me so much,' were most of the comments.
No one ever mentioned those papers in class again. She never knew if they discussed them after class or with their parents, but it didn't matter. The exercise had accomplished its purpose. The students were happy with themselves and one another. That group of students moved on.
Several years later, one of the students was killed in Vietnam and his teacher attended the funeral of that special student. She had never seen a serviceman in a military coffin before. He looked so handsome, so mature.
The church was packed with his friends. One by one those who loved him took a last walk by the coffin. The teacher was the last one to bless the coffin.
As she stood there, one of the soldiers who acted as pallbearer came up to her. 'Were you Mark's math teacher?' he asked. She nodded: 'yes.' Then he said: 'Mark talked about you a lot.'
After the funeral, most of Mark's former classmates went together to a luncheon. Mark's mother and father were there, obviously waiting to speak with his teacher.
'We want to show you something,' his father said, taking a wallet out of his pocket 'They found this on Mark when he was killed. We thought you might recognize it.'
Opening the billfold, he carefully removed two worn pieces of notebook paper that had obviously been taped, folded and refolded many times. The teacher knew without looking that the papers were the ones on which she had listed all the good things each of Mark's classmates had said about him.
'Thank you so much for doing that,' Mark's mother said. 'As you can see, Mark treasured it.'
All of Mark's former classmates started to gather around. Charlie smiled rather sheepishly and said, 'I still have my list. It's in the top drawer of my desk at home.'
Chuck's wife said, 'Chuck asked me to put his in our wedding album.'
'I have mine too,' Marilyn said. 'It's in my diary.'
Then Vicki, another classmate, reached into her pocketbook, took out her wallet and showed her worn and frazzled list to the group. 'I carry this with me at all times,' Vicki said and without batting an eyelash, she continued: 'I think we all saved our lists.'
That's when the teacher finally sat down and cried. She cried for Mark and for all his friends who would never see him again.
The density of people in society is so thick that we forget that life will end one day. And we don't know when that one day will be.
Author - Anonymous
Whether this is a true story or not I feel it is like a parable, showing us a vibrational lesson we can embrace and a gentle reminder to tell the people you love and care for, that they are special and important. Vibrational Blessings Debbie A. Anderson
Late one evening I was reflecting on my day and if I had been vibrationally in sync with everything I had done. Was I on the right track with my work in that moment? I have to share, this is not a question I ask myself on a regular basis, so I considered that as it had come into my mind, perhaps there was something that shifted in me in that moment. I sat for a few minutes to reflect upon my perception of that day and what it meant to me and why was I questioning it?
I try to share with everyone, that when we get thoughts like this to tap into it in the “now” moment. Maybe I needed to be aware of something that spirit were trying to share, but I was too busy to acknowledge it. Life can be demanding, we get engaged in it, and so we should. So for me, I just sat for an instant to contemplate.
I knew I felt good about what I had achieved, so that is where I put my thoughts to rest. It was then, out of the corner of my eye, I saw a tiny piece of paper floating down to the floor, just a few feet from my desk. I bent down in curiosity and picked it up. The message was from a fortune cookie I must have saved. It said “others see you as a wise person”.
So, there in a nano instant, spirit had sent me a clear message.
If anyone has ever been in my office and seen my desk you will know that it is a place where all positive pieces of paper are housed, abandoned if you like. So when I am working at my laptop, when I look out at the wall I am seeing images of positive vibrations staring back at me.
But how did it float up above me, across the room behind my chair? I concluded this could have only been sent from heaven, so in my acceptance of receiving the message I thanked spirit for reminding me that I am on track.
Next time you start to wonder about yourself, your perception of you, just step back and wait, because spirit will send you your own special message.
Vibrational Blessings Debbie A. Anderson
Today, being April Fool’s day will have many of us enjoying playing pranks in a light hearted way. But let’s step back from our modern day aspect because in ancient cultures April 1st was celebrating the beginning of a New Year... a fresh start... a clean sweep... and along with that, new opportunities.
Even the Fool Card in Tarot depicts that they have relinquished responsibilities... let go... have the freedom to do what they want.... sort of like the wild card.... knowing that chances, opportunities are there if they just seek them out.
So today, if you are to do anything, (other than having fun) take a moment to utilize this day (yes, all of it) to explore what vibrational possibilities are there opening up for you.
Call it fate, destiny or just tapping into your spiritual vibration and venturing forward not being the Fool with your life.
Vibrational Blessings Debbie A. Anderson
A man was exploring caves by the seashore. In one of the caves he found a canvas bag with a bunch of hardened clay vessels. It was like someone had rolled balls of clay and left them out in the sun to bake.
They didn't look like much, but they intrigued the man, so he took the bag out of the cave with him. As he strolled along the beach, he would throw the clay balls one at a time out into the ocean as far as he could.
He thought little about it, until he dropped one of the clay balls and it cracked open on a rock. Inside was a beautiful, precious stone!
Excited, the man started breaking open the remaining clay vessels. Each contained a similar treasure. He found thousands of dollars worth of jewels in the 20 or so clay balls he had left. Then it struck him.
He had been on the beach a long time. He had thrown maybe 50 or 60 of the clay balls with their hidden treasure into the ocean waves. Instead of thousands of dollars in treasure, he could have taken home tens of thousands, but he had just thrown it away!
It's like that with people. We look at someone, maybe even ourselves, and we see the external clay vessel. It doesn't look like much from the outside. It isn't always beautiful or sparkling, so we discount it.
We see that person as less important than someone more beautiful or stylish or well known or wealthy, we have not taken the time to find the treasure hidden inside that person.
There is a treasure in each one of us. If we take the time to get to know that person, then the clay begins to peel away and the brilliant gem begins to shine forth.
May we not come to the end of our lives and find out that we have thrown away a fortune in friendships because the gems were hidden in bits of clay.
Now go out there and be a vibrational treasure, the way the Universe intended you to be!!
Vibrational Blessings & Sharings, Debbie A. Anderson
Believing in yourself is paramount if you ever want to succeed in life. It is about self-motivation & overcoming your fears to make your dream become a reality. The first step is having the ability to grasp the notion that you are capable of doing amazing things when you believe in yourself.
Each of us have unlimited potential to do something great but ONLY when you are willing to take the risks and work the plan of action you set out for yourself. Your mind is owned and operated by YOU, so don’t allow the trolls and “neigh sayers” to get in your head, because when you do, you are finished. Don’t allow yourself to get the life blood sucked out of you by trying to live up to the expectations of others. Always surround yourself with people who believe in you and what you are doing.
Self-doubt is like an incurable disease that gets into your system if you don’t stay focused and on course. It is said that faith can move mountains, so never doubt your own power, because you are capable of achieving anything if you are motivated and set your mind, body and soul to it.
Being negative is very easy if you buy into it. The half empty glass concept is the easy way out, because if you look at it from another perspective, you always have the ability to refill the glass – if you want to! When you stop comparing yourself to others and live up to your own expectations you are navigating in the right direction of being successful.
When we step into our vibration and believe in our “self”, because in reality it is already a part of us, the transition is of ease and grace....
Finally remember to always live up to your OWN expectations because it is YOU and only you who counts. As Zig Ziglar said “Put all excuses aside and remember this: YOU are capable”.
Vibrational Blessings, Debbie A. Anderson
This time spiritually and universally is a moment in our lives for facing inner fears... and letting them go for good!!! PERIOD LOL
It is about stepping into our power, which doesn't translate to controlling others, but being aware that when others are around us, we don't have to take on their shifts (smile).
The world is sadly, full of controllers - and we can identify with them very easily... they can be every day people, like ourselves and yes, world leaders and those in power. They have their own fears, so translate that to taking control of others so they can themselves feel stronger, more powerful.
If you can get to the library and rent the Celestine Prophecy*, do it and watch it. Here is the trailer https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yUdDvrAFI1k
We watched this movie many years ago when it first came out, but I borrowed it again from the library about a year ago. As I watched it, I connected to many essences of what is going on in and around us all at the moment (smile). It may help you to understand, even accept, but definitely NOT take on their fears, their anger, their pain.
Always push out love, light and forgiveness because that is the only way we can be free ourselves (smile).
Vibrational Blessings Debbie A. Anderson
*Celestine Prophecy written by James Redfield.
Here are some spiritual outlooks on life by twelve different people. I was sent this by a friend so sadly don’t know who the writer is, so sharing this with you without credit.
As I remind everyone, life is about perspective, each of us with our own viewpoint our own definition. After reading this I hope you will consider things a little differently, with an open mind and heart. Vibrational Blessings Debbie A. Anderson
1. Today, I interviewed my grandmother for part of a research paper I'm working on for my Psychology class. When I asked her to define success in her own words, she said, "Success is when you look back at your life and the memories make you smile."
2. Today, I asked my mentor - a very successful business man in his 70' s - what his top 3 tips are for success. He smiled and said, "Read something no one else is reading, think something no one else is thinking, and do something no one else is doing."
3.Today, after my 72 hour shift at the fire station, a woman ran up to me at the grocery store and gave me a hug. When I tensed up, she realized I didn't recognize her. She let go with tears of joy in her eyes and the most sincere smile and said, "On 9-11-2001, you carried me out of the World Trade Center ."
4.Today, after I watched my dog get run over by a car, I sat on the side of the road holding him and crying. And just before he died, he licked the tears off my face.
5.Today at 7AM, I woke up feeling ill, but decided I needed the money, so I went into work. At 3PM I got laid off. On my drive home I got a flat tire. When I went into the trunk for the spare, it was flat too. A man in a BMW pulled over, gave me a ride, we chatted, and then he offered me a job. I start tomorrow.
6.Today, as my father, three brothers, and two sisters stood around my mother's hospital bed, my mother uttered her last coherent words before she died. She simply said, "I feel so loved right now.
We should have gotten together like this more often."
7.Today, I kissed my dad on the forehead as he passed away in a small hospital bed. About 5 seconds after he passed, I realized it was the first time I had given him a kiss since I was a little boy.
8.Today, in the cutest voice, my 8-year-old daughter asked me to start recycling. I chuckled and asked, "Why?" She replied, "So you can help me save the planet." I chuckled again and asked, "And why do you want to save the planet?" Because that's where I keep all my stuff," she said.
9.Today, when I witnessed a 27-year-old breast cancer patient laughing hysterically at her 2-year-old daughter's antics, I suddenly realized that I need to stop complaining about my life and start celebrating it again.
10.Today, a boy in a wheelchair saw me desperately struggling on crutches with my broken leg and offered to carry my backpack and books for me. He helped me all the way across campus to my class and as he was leaving he said, "I hope you feel better soon."
11.Today, I was feeling down because the results of a biopsy came back malignant. When I got home, I opened an e-mail that said, "Thinking of you today. If you need me, I'm a phone call away."
It was from a high school friend I hadn't seen in 10 years.
12.Today, I was traveling in Kenya and I met a refugee from Zimbabwe . He said he hadn't eaten anything in over 3 days and looked extremely skinny and unhealthy. Then my friend offered him the rest of the sandwich he was eating. The first thing the man said was, "We can share it."
The best sermons are lived, not preached.
This is a wonderful, so I want to share it... I apologize for not giving credit to the author, but thank them for being so wise...... enjoy.....
Why do I have a variety of friends who are all so different in character? How is it possible that I can get along with them all?
I think that each one helps to bring out a "different" part of me. With one of them I am polite. With another I joke, with another I can be a bit naughty... I can sit down and talk about serious matters with one.
With another I laugh a lot. I listen to one friend's problems. Then I listen to another one's advice for me.
My friends are like pieces of a jigsaw puzzle. When completed, they form a treasure box. A treasure of friends! They are my friends who understand me better than I understand myself. They're friends who support me through good days and bad.
Real Age doctors tell us that friends are good for our health. Dr. Oz calls them Vitamin F (for Friends) and counts the benefits of friends as essential to our well being. Research shows that people in strong social circles have less risk of depression and terminal strokes.
If you enjoy Vitamin F constantly you can be up to 30 years younger than your real age. The warmth of friendship stops stress and even in your most intense moments, it decreases the chance of a cardiac arrest or stroke by 50%. I'm so happy that I have a stock of Vitamin F!
In summary, we should value our friends and keep in touch with them. We should try to see the funny side of things and laugh together and pray for each other in the tough moments.
SOME OF MY FRIENDS ARE FRIENDS ON LINE. I KNOW I AM PART OF THEIRS BECAUSE THEIR NAMES APPEAR ON MY COMPUTER SCREEN OFTEN AND I FEEL
BLESSED THAT THEY CARE AS MUCH FOR ME AS I CARE FOR THEM.
THANK YOU FOR BEING ONE OF MY VITAMINS!
THE MOST BEAUTIFUL THING ABOUT FRIENDSHIP IS THAT WE CAN GROW SEPARATELY WITHOUT GROWING APART.
And by the way, this applies to family too...... so have a vibrational day enjoying your dose of Vitamin F!!!
Vibrational Blessings, Debbie A. Anderson
Debbie A. Anderson
As we awaken the vibration within, so the healing begins and we learn to love and live.