Recently I spent an evening enjoying the company of Craig Ferguson, on his “Hot & Grumpy Tour – Walking The Earth”.
For anyone who hasn’t explored the humor of this once stand-up comedian and now late night TV host, then do so with caution, IF you are offended by the “F” word, which I wasn’t.
One phrase he used was “I’m not being judgmental… I am just telling the truth” when sharing his very funny antidotes of his own life’s journey in the world of humor. One example was he mentioned that Vancouver, British Columbia had a lot of Asians living there, he was in no way being prejudice or racist, because it is a fact. Vancouver is made up from a lot of ethnic groups, Asians possibly being the largest group.
After a while as he used this phrase over and over again when sharing his humor, and the phrase sort of grew on me.
Like an epiphany I realized that none of us are actually being judgmental when we share something with another human being. Our truth comes from many aspects of what we have either been taught by our parents, peers and so on, or what we have experienced ourselves up to that point in our ever evolving lives.
Therefore if we “own” that truth, it is ours. So principally we are not evaluating it from any other essence than the core of knowledge we have already learned. For some the awareness and experience may be very limited, so in my defense I will state “I’m not being judgmental…..”
Being judgmental is defined in the dictionary as “having or displaying an excessively critical point of view”.
But can we accept that on its own, or is there a more expansive way to accept others truths?
When we share something that we know as our “own” truth with another, we are not necessarily being negative or disapproving. In some cases we are actually communicating something that has either excited us or given us the opportunity to change our viewpoint.
I am not saying it is okay to impose upon another our own truths, but maybe if we all used the phrase “I am not being judgmental, I am just telling the truth”, others wouldn’t get so offended.
I know for sure that there have been many occasions in my life when I have shared something with someone who has got upset with me, indicating I was being judgmental, which I wasn’t.
So I am positive I am not alone in this experience.
Curious to know what you feel about this concept?
Written by Debbie A. Anderson
On the first day, God created the dog and said, "Sit all day by the door of your house and bark at anyone who comes in or walks past. For this, I will give you a life span of twenty years."
The dog said, "That's a long time to be barking. How about only ten years and I'll give you back the other ten?"
And God saw it was good.
On the second day, God created the monkey and said, "Entertain people, do tricks, and make them laugh. For this, I'll give you a twenty-year life span."
The monkey said, "Monkey tricks for twenty years? That's a pretty long time to perform. How about I give you back ten like the dog did?"
And God, again saw it was good.
On the third day, God created the cow and said,"You must go into the field with the farmer all day long and suffer under the sun, have calves and give milk to support the farmer's family. For this, I will give you a life span of sixty years."
The cow said, "That's kind of a tough life you want me to live for sixty years. How about twenty and I'll give back the other forty?"
And God agreed it was good.
On the fourth day, God created humans and said, "Eat, sleep, play, marry and enjoy your life. For this, I'll give you twenty years."
But the human said, "Only twenty years? Could you possibly give me my twenty, the forty the cow gave back, the ten the monkey gave back and the ten the dog gave back; that makes eighty, okay?"
"Okay," said God, "You asked for it."
So that is why for our first twenty years, we eat, sleep, play and enjoy ourselves.
For the next forty years, we slave in the sun to support our family.
For the next ten years, we do monkey tricks to entertain the grandchildren. And for the last ten years, we sit on the front porch and bark at everyone.
Life has now been explained to you!
This was such a beautiful analogy and a bit of fun, so I hope you enjoyed it!! Vibrational sharing, Debbie A. Anderson
Debbie A. Anderson
As we awaken the vibration within, so the healing begins and we learn to love and live.