Charles Plumb was a US Navy jet pilot in Vietnam. After 75 combat missions, his plane was destroyed by a surface-to-air missile. Plumb ejected and parachuted into enemy hands. He was captured and spent 6 years in a communist Vietnamese prison. He survived the ordeal and now lectures on lessons learned from that experience.
One day, when Plumb and his wife were sitting in a restaurant, a man at another table came up and said, ' You're Plumb! You flew jet fighters in Vietnam from the aircraft carrier Kitty Hawk. You were shot down!
'How in the world did you know that?' asked Plumb.
'I packed your parachute,' the man replied.
Plumb gasped in surprise and gratitude.
The man pumped his hand and said, 'I guess it worked!'
Plumb assured him, 'It sure did. If your chute hadn't worked, I wouldn't be here today.'
Plumb couldn't sleep that night, thinking about that man. Plumb says, 'I kept wondering what he had looked like in a Navy uniform: a white hat; a bib in the back; and bell-bottom trousers.
I wonder how many times I might have seen him and not even said 'Good morning, how are you?' or anything because, you see, I was a fighter pilot and he was just a sailor.' Plumb thought of the many hours the sailor had spent at a long wooden table in the bowels of the ship, carefully weaving the shrouds and folding the silks of each chute, holding in his hands each time the fate of someone he didn't know.
Now, Plumb asks his audience, 'Who's packing your parachute?' Everyone has someone who provides what they need to make it through the day. He also points out that he needed many kinds of parachutes when his plane was shot down over enemy territory - he needed his physical parachute, his mental parachute, his emotional parachute, and his spiritual parachute.
He called on all these supports before reaching safety.
Sometimes in the daily challenges that life gives us, we miss what is really important. We may fail to say hello, please, or thank you, congratulate someone on something wonderful that has happened to them, give a compliment, or just do something nice for no reason. As you go through this week, this month, this year, recognize people who pack your parachutes.
I am posting this as my way of thanking you for your part in packing my parachute & for packing them for others in your life. Today, like every day we have 24 hours in which to make a diffence & embrace all the vibrational parachutes we have had packed for us over the years...
Vibrational Blessings, Debbie A. Anderson
Sadly after a lot of research online I was unable to find out who put these beautiful thoughts together, some attributed it to Andy Rooney, but his publicist said these are not his words. Whomever collated them we thank you, because they are perfectly vibrational.
I've learned.... That the best classroom in the world is at the feet of an elderly person.
I've learned.... That when you're in love, it shows.
I've learned .... That just one person saying to me, 'You've made my day!' makes my day.
I've learned.... That having a child fall asleep in your arms is one of the most peaceful feelings in the world.
I've learned.... That being kind is more important than being right.
I've learned.... That you should never say no to a gift from a child.
I've learned.... That I can always pray for someone when I don't have the strength to help them in any other way.
I've learned.... That no matter how serious your life requires you to be, everyone needs a friend to act goofy with.
I've learned.... That sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand.
I've learned....That life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes.
I've learned....That it's those small daily happenings that make life so spectacular.
I've learned... That under everyone's hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved.
I've learned...That to ignore the facts does not change the facts.
I've learned....That when you plan to get even with someone, you are only letting that person continue to hurt you.
I've learned.... That love, not time, heals all wounds.
I've learned.... That the easiest way for me to grow as a person is to surround myself with people smarter than I am.
This is my contribution.... I invite you to share your what “I’ve Learned” in the comments below.
I’ve learned .... That life is about living in unconditional vibrational Love.
Vibrational Blessings Debbie A. Anderson
Hands up all you healers, spirit & light workers out there that in the past week or so had a strange onset of a cold, cough, depression etc. Something out of the blue, not the norm! Be honest, please. But read this first so you are in full understanding.
Last week I attended a spiritual drumming group. I set my intention BE OPEN –PRESENT!! There were 4 drumming chants to honor the 4 directions encompassing emotional healing, the divine feminine, love & strength. It was vibrational. A day or so later out of the blue came this weird dry cough manifesting within I thought, great.. a shift.. bring it on! Now I don’t get sick, but IF I do get a snap of something I use the mantra ALREADY HEALED, so that I accept that I am not sick, but shifting something within in my divine vibrational essence.
It was ONLY after I recorded my weekly reading Vibrational Changeling that I had this epiphany from spirit who kindly awoke me to at 2.22am to share. Gotta love ‘em. (222 is about heading towards success..new beginnings, having balance & most of all being ready-Yay!)
And here comes the but... yes, everyone has a butt. There are always other elements at work in our Universe, just as there are upon Earth. The fine tuned balance between negative & positive... good & bad are within those etheric frequencies.
Let’s just step back here. In the past year or so there have been many light workers who have passed to spirit, stepped away/off their spiritual path or just been removed/eradicated for whatever reason. I don’t judge, I am just sharing what spirit explained. And here comes the BUT.... but many have been affected... or should I say infected by the dark side.
Of course most spirit workers don’t EVER want to address or talk about this aspect, or are not in complete awareness. Thus creating a resistance, that builds both within us & outside based on the influences surrounding us.
The most important element is that the Spiritual awakening that is currently occurring HAS to embody both sides of your soul to come into its divine power.. especially at this time!! So don’t suppress this, invite your psyche to read on & if it resonates with you, then so be it.
We, our self, our community, our world, our Universe need to be in balance of both dark & light!
Think of a battery, it requires a chemical medium of both positive & negative ions for the electrical energy to flow. If the cells “die” it is because it can no longer sustain a discharge current due to failure, corrosion, shrinkage & so on. It is NOT in balance, so it basically KILLS the battery...... Hopefully the light is flickering for you to SEE the correlation to our human side & why what is happening here is related.
With that explained, let’s address just three physical elements that this is affecting & why, so you can attune to it.
THROAT- holding back from speaking pure vibrational truth, communicating the divine.
WHY? Maybe you are not fully expressing this in fear that others don’t want to face their reality?
COLDS/FLU-Our body is designed to detoxify so when it is “flooded” our vibrational frequency gets washed away, we are detracted from the pathway we chose to walk.
WHY? The Chi energy is letting go of negative beliefs, thoughts, emotions, washing them away. Release it a good thing.
DEPRESSION-Accepting the powerful & profound spiritual bliss unfolding arising from within.
WHY? The ego loves holding onto anything that will bring suffering. When we let go we invite in growth, acceptance & openness.
I am not the expert on this, as I shared earlier, spirit wanted to enlighten me to my own current demise.
If you liked what you read, please share this with others who may be going through this .... be open, not judgemental & most of all keep on moving forward.... and evolving into the vibrational changeling you are meant to be!
Vibrational Blessings from Debbie A. Anderson & The Centre of A
This seemed like a great time to write this blog and share with you all. It seems we live in a fish bowl where we share things about ourselves with others and in turn they communicate with us....
In my line of work, people have conveyed many things to me. Sometimes it’s the great events that are occurring in their lives, but also how tough their journey is now and again.
I try within my limited life to offer an ear they can bend, a shoulder to cry on.... and hopefully an ounce of hope to keep them going because we are all aware that the crappola hits us at one time or another.
I listen, hopefully empathize and always try to give them some kind of hope to move forward with.
No, I don’t profess to implement the Pollyanna effect, but to remember that we get sent opportunities from spirit on a daily basis. Yes, some call them lessons...but when they are directed to us, it gives us the option to explore.... or participate or what I term.... PLAY with them.
We, in that moment, are given an opportunity... yes GIVEN, in a divine appointment, so to speak, the chance... the possibility to make a change.... based on whatever this event is sharing with us. So embrace these moments, STAY in a positive vibration...
And of course, put up a prayer (or ten). Yes PRAY. Spirit are always open, 24 -7 and listening. Our angels, guides, helpers, our ancestors, those we love who have passed to spirit will assist us in whatever way they can.
Even if it is like the poem, “Footprints in the Sand” where the Lord says:
"My precious child, I love you and will never leave you
Never, ever, during your trials and testings.
When you saw only one set of footprints,
It was then that I carried you."
Vibrational Blessings Debbie A. Anderson
For any of you who didn’t know this, the strange gifts given to his “true love” within the carol “Twelve Days of Christmas” actually have a hidden meaning behind them.
As a child growing up, I pondered on the possibility of a lover giving his sweetheart bizarre gifts... where do you stash 10 lords a leaping...... and giggling at The Muppets version with Miss Piggy screeching out.. 5 GOLD rings badam-pam-pam.
Here are the twelve traditional days of Christmas and the meaning for each day.
On Twelfth Night (usually) Christmas decorations were taken down... to leave them up after that date was deemed unlucky. Twelfth Night, marks the beginning of Epiphany on 6 January, the Christian feast day when observers celebrated the visit to Jesus by the Magi - known to us all as the Three kings, or Wise Men.
Now I have explained the traditional 12 days of Christmas I want to invite you to embrace, starting December 25, Twelve new possibilities for you to consider.
Each day I will post on my blog one of the Twelve Vibrational Frequencies of Christmas for you to attract a higher resonance in 2019. I challenge you to expand each vibrational day with words you feel create further connectedness with each one of the twelve vibrations I will share from December 25 to January 5, 2019.
And.... when you are ready, answer this question to each of them... “What can I do to bring this frequency into being?”
Maybe it is an inward change or an outward action... as always, the choice is yours... when you are ready.
Vibrational Blessings Debbie A. Anderson
Back in mid August 2018, I was approached by Sedona Journal of Emergence to submit a channelling for their 2019 Predictions issue. As always I am honored when asked to see what spirit want to share with us all. The channelled message I received from my “A” team (as I call them) was chosen and published.
I promised you once it was published I would share it with you all....
This is the message spirit shared with me for 2019 and beyond.... I truly hope it gives you some enlightenment as this vibrational message is about seeking out the spiritual truth that resides within us all.
The truth is what you dear ones should always deem to seek out, no matter what the consequences.
In your humanness your perception... it can sometimes be clouded by what you want to see rather than what is there right in front of your eyes...... this can sometimes happen due to the integration of others sharing insights in their awareness...... based on their beliefs..... this can sometimes trip you up.... catching you in a void of confusion and questioning based on your belief system. Although for us, time is not of the essence, we share that during the months leading into 2019 through to the end of April stepping into your own awareness will prove to greatly assist you in seeing what is there before you.
If you believe in something... you need to continue to seek it out.... in the higher frequency of unconditional love ..... there you will find the insights and the truth... it will always revealed.
Nothing can be hidden forever.... because it is heart centred....... when you connect to that frequency all will be exposed... shown.... in pure Technicolor....
There is a sense of growing insecurity on your planet, and this frequency causes many to grasp at the illusion that resides in their ego.... a place of self centred doubt.... hesitation.... even distrust in their life.... their world.... it is a form of spiritual unhappiness.
When this distraction rises up from within dear ones.... you can, if stuck in that frequency, start to spiral into the oblivion of ego set beliefs. At this time we are trying to share with you that, if in your awareness you feel this happening to you.... to recalibrate and connect to the truth... the purpose of YOUR journey....don’t get into a holding pattern ..... into a vacuum of unconsciousness. As you venture through 2019 this will to evolve for you all if you just trust within your heart.
We share that there is no such thing as security in life.......... that you are your security.
You are your conscious creator – of your life... and ONLY your life is what matters to us.
Each of you in your consciousness can tap into that frequency....... that vibration and release the doubts... the fear....
All that is you is within the divine principal... because there are no mistakes made. Even if you think there are... whether by us... ..... by others .... or by you.... Let go of those thoughts and remember that you are EXACTLY where you should be... who you should be in every given moment... in divine spiritual essence.
You are the whole conscious intelligent energy that you have always been... the whole spirit of you... in holy-ness ..... in one consciousness in what you choose and what you allow others to chose for you.
Your soul has to remember that everything starts and ends with you... right now... in this moment..in any given moment.... keep this as your guiding star through this year of 2019, the truth will be revealed and with it comes consequences as you move into the latter part of the year.
You are the creator of your world.... of YOU....
When you have been hurt.... upset... disappointed.... you are in distress and this reflects on everything around you triggering both inside and outside of you. When you step into that frequency ....that energy and you are not in conflict with your SELF.... and can stand within the silence of your soul... your vibration..... you see and hear exactly what you need to do .... you feel...so you can clear away that obstacle....inviting it to become Already Healed.... letting go....
When the reflection hurts, it is triggering something within that you need to know ... be in awareness of... see..... once you do... clear it.... clear it with love of self.
You need you to remember that there are no imperfections... no limitations.... the only restraints in your life is what you have invited into your frequency. It is time for clear hearing.... awareness of your thoughts ......understanding that there is no more being powerless.
It is allowing the knowledge of understanding of who you are... what you are... and where you are...
If you decide to stay within the fear...... not to move away from the comfort zone within your life.... if you make the decision to stay rigid .... inflexible to what your soul needs.... that is your decision. We cannot make you see or do any differently because you are in control of YOUR thoughts.
But is it because you are afraid that if you step out of your comfort zone things will be different... of course they will.... but only YOU matter. If you can’t focus on the now... here.... you are nowhere.
This is the time in your world to use words in consciousness allowing the divine connection to be your guiding star.... even if you cannot fully understand every principle of what you are given. Hold it within your heart .... because in your time it will revealed...
This is the time to let go of your excuses.... you are not part of your environment... your surroundings, they are a part of you... every part of you. So what resides within you.... the good, bad and everything in between is what is being reflected from you.... to you.... in every vibrational essence.
Your frequency can explore or experience all the facets of your lifetime based on what you invite into your soul... love.... hate.... abundance.... poverty..... each pole connector has a negative and positive influence... it is not that one is better than the other .... more powerful ..... they are just influences taking the balance from one side to the other... like when you were a child ....sitting on a see-saw (teeter totter) ... if there was just one person on each side it was in balance... like a set of scales. But when more people got on one side than the other it would either rise or fall..... creating a difference in frequency. If people got off too quickly it could flip the see-saw so whomever is on the other side is affected by it. Life is a see-saw that is continually in balance... with you... others around you.... the world.... when it gets off balance you get the choice to stay there or jump off and get back on the other side of it.
All we can ask, is that you are consciously in your awareness of how what you do... think... say ... can influence others.... in either a encouraging way .... or in a harmful way. So only you can be your see-saw in life.... and others theirs. It is you who decides what you keep or disregard ..... thoughts... influences.
It is your soul purpose to be in this life to achieve what you have deemed was necessary for you.
Only you can transform the way you look at life... so we invite you, when needed to change and embrace your frequency in your ever learning spiritual connection in 2019.
We are the Centre of A, vibrational blessings to you all.
Channelled to Debbie A. Anderson September 1, 2018
In the work I do as a clairvoyant medium, I have many beautiful experiences through spirit as they connect with me, especially when I am doing a reading for someone.
Every reading is different, but when spirit unite with their loved ones here on earth, it is always with pure unconditional love.
Many times the reason someone comes for a reading is to find out how their loved one is doing after passing into spirit, or as I call it, crossing over to the other side. They want reassurance on many things, but some of the most memorable questions are... Did they arrive safely? Who was there to meet them? Has their pain gone? How are they doing now?
Spirit, because they are still connected with us through the “love” vibration, know these are our concerns so these questions seem to always show me, that spirit want us to be reassured that they are doing well, the pain has gone, and they are happy.
I like to share with people the analogy, that it is like someone we love, going on vacation and not knowing if anyone will be there, that they know, to meet them. In our humanness, we can get concerned for that traveller, because this is something new, something unfamiliar and because we love them, we want it to all be good.
I am blessed to convey, that no one leaves this world alone, that they are always met by someone on the other side. Usually, if we have been present at the end of that soul’s journey, they may have from time to time near the end, seem to be either looking in the distance at something we cannot see with our human sight, or talking to someone who is not us. This is spirit connecting that person with what I like to call their travel buddy.
This is usually, but not always, someone they know and love that has already passed over. A family member, a friend, and even on occasions a pet that they loved and cared for in life.
All their questions are answered and although it may seem like a new and uncharted journey, they are being reminded that this is not the first time they have done this. Our soul, in human form forget a lot of the details so they are reassured everything has been taken care of for them, and that they are there waiting for them, when they are ready to leave this vibration, this incarnation.
In the past, when someone came to see me, it was usually some time after the person had crossed over. But what I am finding now, because of the immense love vibration that has grown due to the ascension of souls in the past few years, is spirit are consenting those going through their transition, to come back almost immediately to reassure their loved ones all is well.
One of the factors I am noticing is that those here who have said goodbye to a loved one are getting more perceptive to them being around them. What I share is that sometimes spirit send us a message in a hope we can connect to that vibration to know it is them. Many times during a reading that clarification has been confirmed and reassurance given so that loved one knows they can
connect themselves, but in a different vibration.
I try to remind people that when someone leaves this world, that any memory that we have of them, connects us to them, and the highest form of connection is through the love vibration. What I mean by that is when our memory connects with that person in spirit in joy, love and with affection, that thread becomes stronger, so the person on the other side can send back down messages that we will see, sense, feel or hear in some way.
Some people have told me that when they see a butterfly they know it is a certain person, the same type of bird that comes into their garden to visit them, and so on. We just have to connect the dots to understand.
Here is an example of someone who passed into spirit. The messages I received from them for their loved one covered many things including the sense that he would “show” himself as something floating, which I interpreted as something like a butterfly, bird, feather etc. Throughout the reading the color blue kept coming up through his memories, and because this soul was so loving and caring during their journey here on earth, they wanted to still be around in the lives of those they loved.
The person sitting there then shared that just recently a Blue Jay had been visiting their garden, and they had even said, “hey I think that is dad keeping an eye on us”. They asked “could it be him”? We looked at each other and smiled, she then connected all the dots from the reading to get her own confirmation.
Sometimes it isn’t always that simple, but when we are open, heart centred, we are more likely to sense that communication from spirit.
Because there has been an increased amount of uncertainty relating to this,due to people opening up spiritually, there seem to more questions than answers. Spirit has suggested I offer some insights to those opening up on their journey. Therefore I am pleased to offer a new service that I call Spiritual Clarity. It is a 30 minute phone or Skype session where you can ask whatever questions you like related to my work, opening up on your spiritual journey and so on.
Meanwhile I invite you to be open to receive your own connection with spirit, your loved ones who have crossed over to the other side in the vibration of love.
Vibrational Blessings, Debbie A. Anderson
If you are interested in finding out more about whether a Spiritual Clarity session would help you, click on the link http://www.vibrational-energy.com/spiritual-clarity-session.html
Every day I try to make time to meditate, to connect for myself. To gain insights, realignment, and of course to link into that inner peace that sometimes seems to get forgotten in our busy lives.
In my work I have always been blessed to be privy to things, even in that mist or fog of not truly knowing what was being shared, until later on. You know what I am talking about.
We get the signs, the indicators, and yes, we listen, but sometimes spirit don’t fully share with us what this will translate to until it is all ready to unfold... and YES, ultimately it is in their timeline not ours. And although, for me, patience isn’t a virtue I am embracing, I usually get it when the curtains are opened and the story unfolds before me.
Today I spent longer than usual, contemplating things with people I hold near and dear to my heart, namely my father, and a dear friend who always believed in me, no matter if I had any human related doubts about my work and direction - both are now in spirit. As always, my guides and helpers were close by my side allowing me to tap into whatever messages, insights or connections they felt would guide and assist me during this time of introspection.
While meditating and connecting to my higher self, spirit channeled these words that I am sharing with you all because I don’t think they are just for me alone.
At this time dear children the earth is in transition, it has held within it centuries of pains, angers & frustrations that have been “rooted” from the ancestors for thousands upon thousands of Universal years. The eruptions and disturbances she has released are a reflection of the inner hurt she has held onto and now needs to liberate and let go of..... just as you, dear ones, have been doing.
Loving thy self, learning to put self doubts and fears to one side, to be connected to your vibrational frequency in alignment with all that you need to do at this time. So we ask you to allow that soul essence to free itself....vibrating for your deliverance.
We have always invited you to strive for integrity, honor and the truth that resides within each of you, and for many the years since 2012 you have worked on what you need to, to make a difference to you. Moving, releasing, shifting and letting go of anything that is no longer required within your spiritual enlightenment. You have done well. You have placed your trust in your heart and moved out of your limbic mind into this sanctuary allowing new DNA to be activated. Letting go of some, if not all of the pain that you carried with you.. new paradigms, new frequencies, new opportunities are there for many of you.
For those not shifting from the 2nd and 3rd dimensions into the 4th, 5th and 6th dimensional reality, they will stay there, but that is their choice. For those who try to transition, based on lies and untruths they will not move forward, but stay in a looping vortex not realizing it is them that holds them there.
During the past few (human) years we have realigned many ,yet at the same time removed some from the energy work they felt they were doing. This is all as it was ordained. For anyone who is still doubting that the truth will set them free, need to become heart centred and let go of the jealousy, the hatred, the fear that has been rooted in their heart.... for this will consume them.
By July/August time the realignment will be coming to a close, but what it opens up is the opportunity for you our dear ones to see through the eyes of your soul, with the help of the light beings who are already coming amongst you. Each of you has your task, your role to fulfil, so do it with dignity and embrace the vibrational joy that you deserve. All that we offer you is with love. For you to love each other, to help each other because this is not about struggle or rivalry, this is about each one of you being on your sacred journey, heart centred.
We are of love, you are of love and these are things you have forgotten along the way .... they became dormant in the earth, deep down under the hurt, anxiety and oppressive tendencies. Light workers, healers and energy workers will be called upon to assist others with their awakening, by sending them love, pure unconditional love... no judgement will be there. For those not tuned into this, if, in their work, they are of false heart, controlling or manipulating others it will be acknowledged, not punished because that is not something we do to you.
You will feel the weight lifting from your shoulders, from your heart and centre yourself on the frequency of loving you, loving others and being at peace with you.
We are the Centre of A, vibrational blessings to you all.
Channelled to Debbie A. Anderson May 12, 2018
In life there are people who will never see the bigger picture... they assume they know best. Yes, we have all encountered them... even maybe been one of them (smile).
Here are just eleven instances highlighting that if the inventors, creators, movers and shakers in our world had believed in what they were told we would never have the advancement of technology that has changed our world forever.
I am concluding that Penquin books are probably still kicking themselves for not signing JK Rowling and Richard Branson for not taking the cassette tape from the cab driver in London whose name was Phil Collins.
In life, there are lots of missed opportunities... lots of people who will turn you down, squash your visions and goals.
Maybe you will be turned down once, or a thousand times... but if you keep trying eventually you will break through and achieve your dream.
Be the transformation that is within you..
Your commitment to you is to believe in you, what you can do... and as Nike once said... “Just Do it!”
Vibrational Blessings, Debbie A. Anderson
I have to admit that I haven’t written a blog in some time, and it isn’t for the lack of trying. Today I am sharing a beautiful blog written by a friend of mine, Caroline Kimsey, amazing healer and all round spiritual vibration.
It is heart-felt, and that is very important... it focuses on us, loving us first and foremost, something I try to remind you... and myself. So read, interpret and absorb what fits in your world in this moment.
Hearts are appearing everywhere reminding us of this wonderful energy we have inside of us. Our heart energy is always elevated and vibrates fully when we practice self love. Self Love being the true knowing of who we are and healing the parts of us that separate us from our authentic self allowing us to have a respectful, kind and loving relationship with our self which then will emanate into all our relationships. The wisdom of Shakespeare still encourages us to be the best we can today: “This Above All, To thine own self be true.”
I know every one of us is on our own healing journey in whatever way we feel guided to. I think this is the true gift of self love because until we can address, go through our wounds and come out the other side, we cannot heal them. Building these new foundations or planting these healthy gardens is our gift to our “self” and I know it takes courage. I applaud you all for loving yourselves enough to have the courage to do this and for the change you make to the collective energy with each step to wholeness you take.
Every one of us struggles with judgment. We judge other people's politics, words, clothing, appearance, parenting choice etc, etc, etc. To the point that we don't even notice anymore! It has become a habit/addiction usually started in childhood by those around us and then carried on. Also it is something we can turn on ourselves perpetuating the untruths people told us over our lives. Next time you notice you are judging yourself or others instead of listening to the words take a moment to listen to the voice. If you listen carefully you will probably begin to identify other people - parent’s maybe? Peers? Friends? Work Colleagues? Note other peoples' judgements you have taken on and use. When we do this, it's much easier to stop, as we can see how this is not OUR heart speaking.
Judgement is the opposite too self love, no matter who it is directed too. It's a habit that you can break with mindfulness and it will give you a lot more peace when you do. Gabrielle Bernstein, author of Judgment Detox: Release the Beliefs That Hold You Back from Living a Better Life wrote this:
Judging gives you a hangover
When we judge, we get an instant hit of self-righteousness, but subconsciously we know we're separating ourselves from who we really are: compassionate, kind people. As a result, we feel guilty once our high wears off—and to avoid that feeling, we have to judge someone else. This cycle weakens us mentally and physically.
Judging isolates you
We develop addictions because we're trying to numb a core wound, which is usually rooted in childhood. Maybe someone told you that you weren't good enough, or you experienced some other kind of trauma that left you feeling all alone. To avoid experiencing that pain again, you project it onto others by pointing out their flaws. Our fear leads us to attack—but re-enacting the trauma of the past only creates more loneliness and disconnection.
Judging prevents healing
You have to be willing to look at your darkness in order to see the light. That's why the first step in a judgment detox is just to witness it without blaming ourselves. We judge because we're separated from love; to stop the cycle, we have to cultivate self-love. The second step is to honor that core wound. Next time you have the urge to judge, ask yourself what moment from the past is triggering you to feel this way. When we can understand ourselves, healing begins.
Judging leaves you powerless
Many people feel safer when they judge, as if they're controlling their circumstances, but hatred only creates more hatred. Those hours you might spend fuming about the news, for instance, could be used in a more positive way, like volunteering for a cause you care about, engaging in creative projects or spending quality time with people you love. Recovering from judgment addiction gives us back our power and lifts up everyone around us, too.
To heal the world, we have to live the truth in every corner of our lives. Recovery isn't easy—but when we let go of judgment, we make room for love and joy. It's like staying sober: You can't really enjoy a drink again because you know how good it feels to live without it.
I certainly couldn’t have written this better than Caroline, so I give heartfelt thanks for her sharing this with us all. We cannot begin to walk our walk.. speak our truth until we love our “self” first and foremost, and most of all doing that unconditionally.
This month is February, the month of love, so start cultivating and nurturing you with the love YOU deserve. It takes practice.. and we all know practice makes perfect.
Vibrational Blessings, Debbie
Debbie A. Anderson
As we awaken the vibration within, so the healing begins and we learn to love and live.