I share quite a bit about the Law of The Garbage Truck*, so if you haven’t heard it before here goes:
Next time a car pulls out in front of you, or cuts you off, before you respond think about the 'The Law of the Garbage Truck.'
Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment.
As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it and sometimes they'll dump it on you. Don't take it personally.
Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. Don't take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home, or on the streets.
The bottom line is that successful people do not let garbage trucks take over their day.
Life's too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so ... Love the people who treat you right.
And let go of the ones who don't.
Life is Ten Percent what you MAKE IT and Ninety Percent how you TAKE IT..
So try and make every day, A Garbage-Free Day!
My New Year Resolution to anyone would be don’t sweat the small stuff, don't carry your garbage around and smile more!
After all, smiling not only makes us feel better, but also when we exchange a smile with others can assist them in changing their mood-basically it is contagious in a great way! Smiling as we all know is good for our health, by increasing our immune system and reducing our stress levels. Especially after Christmas we need to prevent ourselves from getting worried about everything i.e. bills and how much we have eaten.
The biggest and best thing about smiling is it costs us ONLY the time it takes to create it. So grab a DVD of a comedy, read a funny book, or spend time with small children. If all else fails take yourself to a mirror and smile at yourself. You can’t help but laugh!!
Vibrational Blessings, Debbie A. Anderson
* The Law of the Garbage Truck: How to Stop People from Dumping on You by David J. Pollay
For me one of the many things I value is my friendships with others, and of course very much theirs with me.
As a friend I try to turn up, be present, in my intention at any moment when they feel they need me. Sometimes, due to other things happening in my life I am not always able to be there, right in that moment for them. But in some way I do reach out and show them the love I have in them and the belief that life will sort itself out... and so on.
The big thing for me is if I have said I will be there to help them in some way, call them or whatever I have agreed to do...regardless of whatever comes up in my life, I WILL follow through, come hell or high water. As someone once said to me... “....unless you have a death certificate there are NO excuses.”
The reason I am sharing, is that in our world at present, we talk about, mostly via social media, having lots of friends and count them as being there when we need them, or vice versa. But sadly, it isn’t necessarily the case. Someone once said to me, “In your line of work you must have lots and lots of friends?” To which I replied, “....no actually I have one or two... maybe even three people who have been there in my life, to whom I, with blessings call friends”. They seemed surprised and I feel a little disappointed. But for me, friends are a very special connection. And friendship takes work, time, commitment. It cannot be one sided in any way. As you sow, so shall you reap!
Yes, I have many acquaintances, and for that I feel doubly, if not triply blessed. I am truly not sharing this with you for you to feel sorry for me, but instead inviting you to reflect upon those in your world who have been there for you, through thick & thin, laughter & tears and STILL love you as much as you love them. These are what true friends look like, in every shape and form, so value and be thankful for them.
Which is my segue to change the conversation to Dragonflies and what they mean to me and how this all ties together.
On my tour to the Maritimes this Fall, I was blessed to have an event at Dragonflys & Dreams in Sydney, Cape Breton, on completion, the owner Sharon, blessed me with a beautiful dragonfly crystal hanging one for my window at home. And it now has pride of place next to other crystals & a stained glass piece in my office area.
The Dragonfly symbolizes change, transformation, adaptability, and self-realization. Which at this moment in our world, we are facing both personally & worldly EVERY single day. So keep that in mind folks.
As a totem it is about wisdom, and when it turns up in our life it is a reminder to bring about more lightness & joy allowing our true colors to shine through. To be our vibrational self on all levels and standing tall and powerful in that energy.
They appear in our life, when it is time to bring about change, this is when spirit are engaging us to see our full potential. To live and experience life for our self in acceptance that metamorphosis is about to occur. And with that I say “Bring it on, I am ready!”
Spirit offers up to us this self realization every day, in some form or another. Whether it is something we see, hear or discover. Maybe someone gives us something or guides us to somewhere. And in that moment, when we reach our own “Aha” realization, we are reminded that spirit are there for us, in our corner, so to speak, helping us every step of the way.
I truly pray your day, your week, and your life is filled with friendship, dragonflies & self realization and in every moment your vibrational essence turns up and is there in intention.
Vibrational Blessings, Debbie A. Anderson
I am not sure if it is the time of year, or just something within me that feels very protective of myself and others at this time. I call it my mama bear mode... a time when maybe I have to roar loudly to keep away danger and to bring close, those that I love and care for.
So, in an effort to understand this instinctual, and protective side that is rising up within me, I did what I usually do, when faced with something that is outside of my humanness. I meditate.
The first thing I was faced with in this time of reflection was the symbolism of the bear.
The supreme fearlessness, filling me with strength & raw, yet focused power.
I saw that within me was the role of guardian, in a grounded and real way, standing in my power, creating a spiritual circle around those who I love and care for, protecting and bringing about awareness.
I heard these vibrational words that I will share with you all now.
You are never alone...
Sometimes we need to step into our own solitude, trust & be who we are.
You are grounded, manifesting your intuitive gifts providing a positive outcome.
Harness this powerful energy & connect emotionally to the Universe on all levels.
YOUR roar can heal, protect & balance all around you.
Stand strong! Be you & draw close those you love & trust.
For all of you out there... whatever your gender, whatever your belief, whatever your journey, know that these words are for us all.
Debbie A. Anderson
I truly believe that we are drawn in a particular direction for a reason.. be it spiritual, love or life... maybe it is about revisiting and forgiving... maybe it is about embracing and learning... whatever it is, when we are in that intention, with complete synchronicity, we learn something.
When we receive messages from the Universe they are timely, and although sometimes meant directly for us, every now and again they are for us to share with others.
I have been seeing 444 in whatever form that spirit brings it towards me to see and today I want to share this with you. Not for any other reason than I feel guided to do so.
At this moment, our world to some may feel like it is in chaos regarding belief and spirituality... possibly linked to past lives and the inaugural power struggles within mankind. I wonder if that state of flux is a reminder to me why I am eclectic in my work... standing alone is not necessarily lonely.
My road, my decision, and thankfully we are all different... it is when we seek inside, listen, and respond to where we are guided that matters most.
We are all here to receive the vibrational blessings on the road to what some refer to as the “awakening”, so the more we connect, calibrate to that frequency in awareness, the easier it does become. This is more about you discovering you, in the I AM essence, so step into that consciousness and let it assist you in whatever way you need.
Each of us has a life journey, and of course the human element that is mixed into it, is our free will, so don’t ever feel you are not exactly where you should be at any given time. Because if you do, sadly you miss out on the “present”... the gift we receive every day. As someone once shared with me, every day we awake and it is a clean slate, we choose what we do with that day, in any given moment. If you are unsure, then ask your guardian angel to assist you. They are there whenever you need them, just speak up, spend time with them, just like you would an old friend. It is about trust, faith and of course patience.
When we are in harmony, synchronized in our soul essence we don’t have to question is this the right path, am I exactly where I should be, because we have trusted that we will receive the signs, the notification if you like, from spirit. Whether this is listening to my intuition... my gut.... my heart. Unconditionally resonating with what happens... good, bad, happy, sad and ... everything in between.
So, when I see 444 in whatever form it appears, it is memo from my guides, helpers, angels... God. Saying, you are amazing, you are on track, you are exactly where you should be right now, and when there, you are in full intention to absorb, observe and in that moment.
Spirit communicate with us, so take some time to reflect on what messages you have been sent today, yesterday and be open and ready tomorrow.
Vibrational Blessings, Debbie A. Anderson
This seemed like a great time to write this blog and share with you all. It seems we live in a fish bowl where we share things about ourselves with others and in turn they communicate with us....
In my line of work, people have conveyed many things to me. Sometimes it’s the great events that are occurring in their lives, but also how tough their journey is now and again.
I try within my limited life to offer an ear they can bend, a shoulder to cry on.... and hopefully an ounce of hope to keep them going because we are all aware that the crappola hits us at one time or another.
I listen, hopefully empathize and always try to give them some kind of hope to move forward with.
No, I don’t profess to implement the Pollyanna effect, but to remember that we get sent opportunities from spirit on a daily basis. Yes, some call them lessons...but when they are directed to us, it gives us the option to explore.... or participate or what I term.... PLAY with them.
We, in that moment, are given an opportunity... yes GIVEN, in a divine appointment, so to speak, the chance... the possibility to make a change.... based on whatever this event is sharing with us. So embrace these moments, STAY in a positive vibration...
And of course, put up a prayer (or ten). Yes PRAY. Spirit are always open, 24 -7 and listening. Our angels, guides, helpers, our ancestors, those we love who have passed to spirit will assist us in whatever way they can.
Even if it is like the poem, “Footprints in the Sand” where the Lord says:
"My precious child, I love you and will never leave you
Never, ever, during your trials and testings.
When you saw only one set of footprints,
It was then that I carried you."
Vibrational Blessings Debbie A. Anderson
Back in mid August 2018, I was approached by Sedona Journal of Emergence to submit a channelling for their 2019 Predictions issue. As always I am honored when asked to see what spirit want to share with us all. The channelled message I received from my “A” team (as I call them) was chosen and published.
I promised you once it was published I would share it with you all....
This is the message spirit shared with me for 2019 and beyond.... I truly hope it gives you some enlightenment as this vibrational message is about seeking out the spiritual truth that resides within us all.
The truth is what you dear ones should always deem to seek out, no matter what the consequences.
In your humanness your perception... it can sometimes be clouded by what you want to see rather than what is there right in front of your eyes...... this can sometimes happen due to the integration of others sharing insights in their awareness...... based on their beliefs..... this can sometimes trip you up.... catching you in a void of confusion and questioning based on your belief system. Although for us, time is not of the essence, we share that during the months leading into 2019 through to the end of April stepping into your own awareness will prove to greatly assist you in seeing what is there before you.
If you believe in something... you need to continue to seek it out.... in the higher frequency of unconditional love ..... there you will find the insights and the truth... it will always revealed.
Nothing can be hidden forever.... because it is heart centred....... when you connect to that frequency all will be exposed... shown.... in pure Technicolor....
There is a sense of growing insecurity on your planet, and this frequency causes many to grasp at the illusion that resides in their ego.... a place of self centred doubt.... hesitation.... even distrust in their life.... their world.... it is a form of spiritual unhappiness.
When this distraction rises up from within dear ones.... you can, if stuck in that frequency, start to spiral into the oblivion of ego set beliefs. At this time we are trying to share with you that, if in your awareness you feel this happening to you.... to recalibrate and connect to the truth... the purpose of YOUR journey....don’t get into a holding pattern ..... into a vacuum of unconsciousness. As you venture through 2019 this will to evolve for you all if you just trust within your heart.
We share that there is no such thing as security in life.......... that you are your security.
You are your conscious creator – of your life... and ONLY your life is what matters to us.
Each of you in your consciousness can tap into that frequency....... that vibration and release the doubts... the fear....
All that is you is within the divine principal... because there are no mistakes made. Even if you think there are... whether by us... ..... by others .... or by you.... Let go of those thoughts and remember that you are EXACTLY where you should be... who you should be in every given moment... in divine spiritual essence.
You are the whole conscious intelligent energy that you have always been... the whole spirit of you... in holy-ness ..... in one consciousness in what you choose and what you allow others to chose for you.
Your soul has to remember that everything starts and ends with you... right now... in this moment..in any given moment.... keep this as your guiding star through this year of 2019, the truth will be revealed and with it comes consequences as you move into the latter part of the year.
You are the creator of your world.... of YOU....
When you have been hurt.... upset... disappointed.... you are in distress and this reflects on everything around you triggering both inside and outside of you. When you step into that frequency ....that energy and you are not in conflict with your SELF.... and can stand within the silence of your soul... your vibration..... you see and hear exactly what you need to do .... you feel...so you can clear away that obstacle....inviting it to become Already Healed.... letting go....
When the reflection hurts, it is triggering something within that you need to know ... be in awareness of... see..... once you do... clear it.... clear it with love of self.
You need you to remember that there are no imperfections... no limitations.... the only restraints in your life is what you have invited into your frequency. It is time for clear hearing.... awareness of your thoughts ......understanding that there is no more being powerless.
It is allowing the knowledge of understanding of who you are... what you are... and where you are...
If you decide to stay within the fear...... not to move away from the comfort zone within your life.... if you make the decision to stay rigid .... inflexible to what your soul needs.... that is your decision. We cannot make you see or do any differently because you are in control of YOUR thoughts.
But is it because you are afraid that if you step out of your comfort zone things will be different... of course they will.... but only YOU matter. If you can’t focus on the now... here.... you are nowhere.
This is the time in your world to use words in consciousness allowing the divine connection to be your guiding star.... even if you cannot fully understand every principle of what you are given. Hold it within your heart .... because in your time it will revealed...
This is the time to let go of your excuses.... you are not part of your environment... your surroundings, they are a part of you... every part of you. So what resides within you.... the good, bad and everything in between is what is being reflected from you.... to you.... in every vibrational essence.
Your frequency can explore or experience all the facets of your lifetime based on what you invite into your soul... love.... hate.... abundance.... poverty..... each pole connector has a negative and positive influence... it is not that one is better than the other .... more powerful ..... they are just influences taking the balance from one side to the other... like when you were a child ....sitting on a see-saw (teeter totter) ... if there was just one person on each side it was in balance... like a set of scales. But when more people got on one side than the other it would either rise or fall..... creating a difference in frequency. If people got off too quickly it could flip the see-saw so whomever is on the other side is affected by it. Life is a see-saw that is continually in balance... with you... others around you.... the world.... when it gets off balance you get the choice to stay there or jump off and get back on the other side of it.
All we can ask, is that you are consciously in your awareness of how what you do... think... say ... can influence others.... in either a encouraging way .... or in a harmful way. So only you can be your see-saw in life.... and others theirs. It is you who decides what you keep or disregard ..... thoughts... influences.
It is your soul purpose to be in this life to achieve what you have deemed was necessary for you.
Only you can transform the way you look at life... so we invite you, when needed to change and embrace your frequency in your ever learning spiritual connection in 2019.
We are the Centre of A, vibrational blessings to you all.
Channelled to Debbie A. Anderson September 1, 2018
Sunday, November 11, 2018 at 11am is sequential 11.
This is a time for you to be present and intentional in your thoughts as manifestation on your focus (thoughts) is what will transpire.
Seeing the number 1 repeating itself is a VERY positive sign, and a VERY powerful vibrational time for focusing your heart centred thoughts on what you want, need and desire in your life.
It is a time to release any negative emotions that maybe holding you back from achieving the transformation within you.... so as the movie FROZEN states... let it go, let it go, let it go.....
This gateway of the duality of the Oneness is open to inviting us to walk on our pathway of Universal love and acceptance. KNOWING, yep, that’s right, knowing that whatever you either positively or negatively think (the dual edged sword) influences us at this time. I know I will be open to whatever new and exciting synchronistic activation spirit sends to me, in total Vibrational Trust!
I have shared with many of you, that this year, 2018 is the year of shedding off anything that is holding us back. Digging up any skeletons that we buried without releasing... letting go of ANYTHING that no longer serves us. This eleventh month, just like the eleventh hour in decision making is very integral... and opening up that energetic gateway into our spiritual realm of completeness.
Remember the only thing you own is your thoughts, so be wise to what you invite in at this time. This is a VERY clear and concise message from our angels, guardians and spirit helpers/guides. Therefore your thoughts can and will manifest into your reality.
So, what will you take the time to focus on at 11am on November 11, 2018?
The list is infinite and only you and your beliefs will bring you into your vibrational enlightenment.
How do you manifest at this time? Easy, sit in peace and quietness, (yes, that means turning off your electronics) at 11am (wherever in the world you live) and set your intention to what you want, need and desire within your life... your world... our Universe. The choice is yours.
Sit and listen to what that intentional vibration means to you. That means connecting in your heart, not your head.
Take some nice gentle breaths. Breathe in what you need, want, desire and as you breathe out release what you no longer need-anything that doesn't serve you. Continue doing this over and over again.... slowly.... listening to your heart as you feel what it is sharing with you.... do this for ONE MINUTE... yes, wow, that long!!!
If you are NOT sure that what you want is right for you.... add to the end of your request.... this or something to my highest good..... or this or something better. That way you are not locked into anything other than what spirit feel is what you need based on your request (smile).
When the minute is finished, thank your guides, helpers, angels... the Universe... take one last nice cleansing breath, and let it go. Now go and enjoy the rest of the day knowing you have taken the time for that connection with 11 : 11 : 11 : 11.
Vibrational Blessings, Debbie A. Anderson
In life we have random moments... one after another... and sometimes we actually listen and follow through... on that haphazard thought... without attaching anything to it... no requirements... no needing to know... just taking one step after another not expecting a perceived outcome....
It does all start with that casual thought. That moment when you just do something because you feel an inner feeling...... guidance... direction.
Take my day yesterday. I went out to mail out a deck that had been purchased online at my website. I stood in the lineup, and looked around the very familiar spot I go to almost daily to ship out orders (thank you spirit). But today my eye caught a postcard of Point Pelee, it was prepaid to anywhere in the world, so I immediately thought of my son Russell, who last year came to visit me in Canada. We walked out to the “point” something I hadn’t done in the 4 years I have lived in Leamington. And, that was that random moment I followed through & bought the postcard.
I then was craving a trim, my hair was getting way too long for me, it was messing, untamed. But the hairdresser was packed, an hour wait, hmmm way too much to do. So my day continued like any other day, focusing on my wonderful work. Later Chris had to go out to see his mechanic for the corvette, so asked if I wanted to come along for the ride. Why not, sunny day, cooler than it has been so I was in.
After we had finished his “business” I asked if we could just drop back into the hairdressers, and yes, they could cut my hair. Again, a random decision – unplanned, not orchestrated. Chris then suggested going for a beer, I was in, the temperature was pleasant and I wanted to sit outside, so we decided to go to the golf club looking over Lake Erie, only to be told NO, the management were concerned about the bugs.
Hmm, Fish flies had just finished, so we then, on the spur of the moment went somewhere else, a place we had not been to in a long time that we knew had a patio overlooking the lake. As we pulled up & got out of the car this voice shouts over “Debbie ... it’s you!” We embraced in complete surprise, because the last time we had met over a year ago she was heading out of Province. She shared “I was going to go for a bike ride, but spirit said get in the car and go to Freddys.” so she followed through. Wow I thought, this wasn’t our first choice, but obviously spirit guided us here too... at this exact moment when Amanda would be here. That chance meeting -synchronistical. She then shared her travels and explained currently she was working at Point Pelee... I laughed and pulled out the postcard I had purchased earlier.
In that moment, we sat KNOWING this was a divine invitation for us all.... not knowing the “what” or the “why” but allowing our intuition, our inner guru to guide us to this exact point in time for this meeting.
We sat, talked and listened. We shared and allowed that moment, when the three of us where connected spiritually to just be. In synchronicity. In pure awareness. Even still not knowing what or why we had been brought together, but embracing the moment.
Questions, thoughts, sharings... then as we were preparing to say goodbye, the song from Flashdance came on.. What a Feeling... take your magic and make it happen... take your passion and make it happen.... What a feeling, Bein's believin'..I can have it all.
What more could we have asked for in that divine appointment we had turned up for? A clear and concise message for us all!
Thank you spirit for everything you send to me EVERY single moment. Thank you for engaging my consciousness into being present, turning up, being in the NOW moment every step of the way.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Now invite in the moments that occur without knowing why... it all starts with just a thought!.
Vibrational Blessings, Debbie A. Anderson
Every day I try to make time to meditate, to connect for myself. To gain insights, realignment, and of course to link into that inner peace that sometimes seems to get forgotten in our busy lives.
In my work I have always been blessed to be privy to things, even in that mist or fog of not truly knowing what was being shared, until later on. You know what I am talking about.
We get the signs, the indicators, and yes, we listen, but sometimes spirit don’t fully share with us what this will translate to until it is all ready to unfold... and YES, ultimately it is in their timeline not ours. And although, for me, patience isn’t a virtue I am embracing, I usually get it when the curtains are opened and the story unfolds before me.
Today I spent longer than usual, contemplating things with people I hold near and dear to my heart, namely my father, and a dear friend who always believed in me, no matter if I had any human related doubts about my work and direction - both are now in spirit. As always, my guides and helpers were close by my side allowing me to tap into whatever messages, insights or connections they felt would guide and assist me during this time of introspection.
While meditating and connecting to my higher self, spirit channeled these words that I am sharing with you all because I don’t think they are just for me alone.
At this time dear children the earth is in transition, it has held within it centuries of pains, angers & frustrations that have been “rooted” from the ancestors for thousands upon thousands of Universal years. The eruptions and disturbances she has released are a reflection of the inner hurt she has held onto and now needs to liberate and let go of..... just as you, dear ones, have been doing.
Loving thy self, learning to put self doubts and fears to one side, to be connected to your vibrational frequency in alignment with all that you need to do at this time. So we ask you to allow that soul essence to free itself....vibrating for your deliverance.
We have always invited you to strive for integrity, honor and the truth that resides within each of you, and for many the years since 2012 you have worked on what you need to, to make a difference to you. Moving, releasing, shifting and letting go of anything that is no longer required within your spiritual enlightenment. You have done well. You have placed your trust in your heart and moved out of your limbic mind into this sanctuary allowing new DNA to be activated. Letting go of some, if not all of the pain that you carried with you.. new paradigms, new frequencies, new opportunities are there for many of you.
For those not shifting from the 2nd and 3rd dimensions into the 4th, 5th and 6th dimensional reality, they will stay there, but that is their choice. For those who try to transition, based on lies and untruths they will not move forward, but stay in a looping vortex not realizing it is them that holds them there.
During the past few (human) years we have realigned many ,yet at the same time removed some from the energy work they felt they were doing. This is all as it was ordained. For anyone who is still doubting that the truth will set them free, need to become heart centred and let go of the jealousy, the hatred, the fear that has been rooted in their heart.... for this will consume them.
By July/August time the realignment will be coming to a close, but what it opens up is the opportunity for you our dear ones to see through the eyes of your soul, with the help of the light beings who are already coming amongst you. Each of you has your task, your role to fulfil, so do it with dignity and embrace the vibrational joy that you deserve. All that we offer you is with love. For you to love each other, to help each other because this is not about struggle or rivalry, this is about each one of you being on your sacred journey, heart centred.
We are of love, you are of love and these are things you have forgotten along the way .... they became dormant in the earth, deep down under the hurt, anxiety and oppressive tendencies. Light workers, healers and energy workers will be called upon to assist others with their awakening, by sending them love, pure unconditional love... no judgement will be there. For those not tuned into this, if, in their work, they are of false heart, controlling or manipulating others it will be acknowledged, not punished because that is not something we do to you.
You will feel the weight lifting from your shoulders, from your heart and centre yourself on the frequency of loving you, loving others and being at peace with you.
We are the Centre of A, vibrational blessings to you all.
Channelled to Debbie A. Anderson May 12, 2018
I have to admit that I haven’t written a blog in some time, and it isn’t for the lack of trying. Today I am sharing a beautiful blog written by a friend of mine, Caroline Kimsey, amazing healer and all round spiritual vibration.
It is heart-felt, and that is very important... it focuses on us, loving us first and foremost, something I try to remind you... and myself. So read, interpret and absorb what fits in your world in this moment.
Hearts are appearing everywhere reminding us of this wonderful energy we have inside of us. Our heart energy is always elevated and vibrates fully when we practice self love. Self Love being the true knowing of who we are and healing the parts of us that separate us from our authentic self allowing us to have a respectful, kind and loving relationship with our self which then will emanate into all our relationships. The wisdom of Shakespeare still encourages us to be the best we can today: “This Above All, To thine own self be true.”
I know every one of us is on our own healing journey in whatever way we feel guided to. I think this is the true gift of self love because until we can address, go through our wounds and come out the other side, we cannot heal them. Building these new foundations or planting these healthy gardens is our gift to our “self” and I know it takes courage. I applaud you all for loving yourselves enough to have the courage to do this and for the change you make to the collective energy with each step to wholeness you take.
Every one of us struggles with judgment. We judge other people's politics, words, clothing, appearance, parenting choice etc, etc, etc. To the point that we don't even notice anymore! It has become a habit/addiction usually started in childhood by those around us and then carried on. Also it is something we can turn on ourselves perpetuating the untruths people told us over our lives. Next time you notice you are judging yourself or others instead of listening to the words take a moment to listen to the voice. If you listen carefully you will probably begin to identify other people - parent’s maybe? Peers? Friends? Work Colleagues? Note other peoples' judgements you have taken on and use. When we do this, it's much easier to stop, as we can see how this is not OUR heart speaking.
Judgement is the opposite too self love, no matter who it is directed too. It's a habit that you can break with mindfulness and it will give you a lot more peace when you do. Gabrielle Bernstein, author of Judgment Detox: Release the Beliefs That Hold You Back from Living a Better Life wrote this:
Judging gives you a hangover
When we judge, we get an instant hit of self-righteousness, but subconsciously we know we're separating ourselves from who we really are: compassionate, kind people. As a result, we feel guilty once our high wears off—and to avoid that feeling, we have to judge someone else. This cycle weakens us mentally and physically.
Judging isolates you
We develop addictions because we're trying to numb a core wound, which is usually rooted in childhood. Maybe someone told you that you weren't good enough, or you experienced some other kind of trauma that left you feeling all alone. To avoid experiencing that pain again, you project it onto others by pointing out their flaws. Our fear leads us to attack—but re-enacting the trauma of the past only creates more loneliness and disconnection.
Judging prevents healing
You have to be willing to look at your darkness in order to see the light. That's why the first step in a judgment detox is just to witness it without blaming ourselves. We judge because we're separated from love; to stop the cycle, we have to cultivate self-love. The second step is to honor that core wound. Next time you have the urge to judge, ask yourself what moment from the past is triggering you to feel this way. When we can understand ourselves, healing begins.
Judging leaves you powerless
Many people feel safer when they judge, as if they're controlling their circumstances, but hatred only creates more hatred. Those hours you might spend fuming about the news, for instance, could be used in a more positive way, like volunteering for a cause you care about, engaging in creative projects or spending quality time with people you love. Recovering from judgment addiction gives us back our power and lifts up everyone around us, too.
To heal the world, we have to live the truth in every corner of our lives. Recovery isn't easy—but when we let go of judgment, we make room for love and joy. It's like staying sober: You can't really enjoy a drink again because you know how good it feels to live without it.
I certainly couldn’t have written this better than Caroline, so I give heartfelt thanks for her sharing this with us all. We cannot begin to walk our walk.. speak our truth until we love our “self” first and foremost, and most of all doing that unconditionally.
This month is February, the month of love, so start cultivating and nurturing you with the love YOU deserve. It takes practice.. and we all know practice makes perfect.
Vibrational Blessings, Debbie
Debbie A. Anderson
As we awaken the vibration within, so the healing begins and we learn to love and live.